{"id":1010,"date":"2014-09-26T15:24:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-26T19:24:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/wordpress\/autisticme\/?p=1010"},"modified":"2023-11-26T16:33:09","modified_gmt":"2023-11-26T22:33:09","slug":"barriers-and-space","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2014\/09\/26\/barriers-and-space\/","title":{"rendered":"Barriers and Space"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of my personality quirks is that <strong>I like clear delineation of <em>my space<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0in the world. I don&#8217;t like fuzzy barriers between the bits of the world I occupy and the rest of (human) world.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t mind if my yard leads into a forest. That&#8217;s great. But I do want to know where my yard ends and the neighbors&#8217; yards begin. I want lines drawn, nice and clear lines that clarify my responsibility. 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