{"id":1010,"date":"2014-09-26T15:24:00","date_gmt":"2014-09-26T19:24:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/wordpress\/autisticme\/?p=1010"},"modified":"2023-11-26T16:33:09","modified_gmt":"2023-11-26T22:33:09","slug":"barriers-and-space","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2014\/09\/26\/barriers-and-space\/","title":{"rendered":"Barriers and Space"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of my personality quirks is that <strong>I like clear delineation of <em>my space<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0in the world. I don&#8217;t like fuzzy barriers between the bits of the world I occupy and the rest of (human) world.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t mind if my yard leads into a forest. That&#8217;s great. But I do want to know where my yard ends and the neighbors&#8217; yards begin. I want lines drawn, nice and clear lines that clarify my responsibility. Admittedly, I also want others to know, \u201dHey, I\u2019m not responsible for whatever you see over there!&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Fences and walls matter to me. The same is true at work. I want fences between neighbors and I want walls between coworkers.<\/p>\n<p>When I\u2019m on the phone or working on a project, I don\u2019t want to hear someone else talking to his or her teenager.<\/p>\n<p>I like my desk to be\u2026 mine. I like my desk clean, my filing cabinets organized, and my books shelved by topic and then alphabetical. Don\u2019t enter my space without asking, and definitely don\u2019t return books to a shelf for me to be helpful \u2014 other people never seem to place them back in order! Return the book to me and let me put it where it belongs.<\/p>\n<p>Controlling my space, and wanting it as perfect as possible, is more than preference. It borders on a need \u2014 a desire to have a little bit of order and control, when we know control is so limited in life. My spaces are at least something I maintain, along with my equally picky (and sometimes pickier) wife.<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t like that our house isn&#8217;t done, that boxes and filing cabinets aren&#8217;t organized, that we need to organize many things and never have the time to complete these tasks, but at least we are in charge of our spaces.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of my personality quirks is that I like clear delineation of my space\u00a0in the world. I don&#8217;t like fuzzy barriers between the bits of the world I occupy and the rest of (human) world. I don&#8217;t mind if my yard leads into a forest. That&#8217;s great. But I do&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2014\/09\/26\/barriers-and-space\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Barriers and Space<\/span> <i class=\"fas fa-angle-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":4014,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"iawp_total_views":17,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[186,488,503,565,659,779],"class_list":["post-1010","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-general","tag-coworkers","tag-neighbors","tag-offices","tag-privacy","tag-space","tag-workplaces","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2023\/12\/Podcast-HD-1920x1080-comp-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1440&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfivLC-gi","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1010","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1010"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1010\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3783,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1010\/revisions\/3783"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4014"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1010"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1010"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1010"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}