{"id":1050,"date":"2018-10-14T14:38:03","date_gmt":"2018-10-14T18:38:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/wordpress\/autisticme\/?p=1050"},"modified":"2023-11-26T16:29:20","modified_gmt":"2023-11-26T22:29:20","slug":"work-life-imbalance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2018\/10\/14\/work-life-imbalance\/","title":{"rendered":"Work-Life Imbalance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Neglecting <em><strong>The Autistic Me<\/strong><\/em> blog and podcast was not my intention with my return to teaching, but that\u2019s been one of the costs. Trying to triage my schedule and to-do list has required prioritizing teaching duties \u2014 particularly grading \u2014 that require far more than 40 hours per week. Teaching, for me, is a 60-hour job (at least), as I prepare materials, read, and grade.<\/p>\n<p>I invest too much time in my work and projects, failing to set aside tasks when I should. Perfectionism is unhealthy, something many of us know but cannot change.<\/p>\n<p>My job consumes me, as I want to do it well and never believe I am.<\/p>\n<p>Sacrificing my mind and body also affects my family. Trying to be the best teacher I can be, I end up being less as a parent and husband.<\/p>\n<p>I want to believe people can change, and yet I cannot seem to let go of the perfectionism that results in paralysis and anxiety. Letting go seems easy and basic. Simply stop grading by a certain time, for example. Limit feedback to a few sentences. Stop. Set limits. That\u2019s really the key to balancing work and life: stop working.<\/p>\n<p>So, why can\u2019t I do it? I need to. Our children and my wife should come first. Relationships should be my priority, not how many papers I grade on a deadline.<\/p>\n<p>I promise myself I\u2019ll balance work and life better, and then I don\u2019t manage that seemingly simple goal.<\/p>\n<p>If there\u2019s a way to lose the anxiety about being the best, always, I haven\u2019t discovered it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Neglecting The Autistic Me blog and podcast was not my intention with my return to teaching, but that\u2019s been one of the costs. Trying to triage my schedule and to-do list has required prioritizing teaching duties \u2014 particularly grading \u2014 that require far more than 40 hours per week. Teaching,&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2018\/10\/14\/work-life-imbalance\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Work-Life Imbalance<\/span> <i class=\"fas fa-angle-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":4014,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"iawp_total_views":25,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[5,7,11],"tags":[348,459,544,627,645,767,779],"class_list":["post-1050","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-employment","category-health","category-relationships","tag-hobbies","tag-mental-health","tag-physical-health","tag-self-care","tag-sleep","tag-wellness","tag-workplaces","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2023\/12\/Podcast-HD-1920x1080-comp-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1440&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfivLC-gW","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1050","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1050"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1050\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3663,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1050\/revisions\/3663"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4014"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1050"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1050"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1050"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}