{"id":870,"date":"2014-04-29T08:00:00","date_gmt":"2014-04-29T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/wordpress\/autisticme\/?p=870"},"modified":"2023-11-26T16:33:24","modified_gmt":"2023-11-26T22:33:24","slug":"bad-advice-just-ignore-the-jerks-and-my-memory","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2014\/04\/29\/bad-advice-just-ignore-the-jerks-and-my-memory\/","title":{"rendered":"Bad Advice: &#8216;Just Ignore the Jerks&#8217; and My Memory"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Ignoring people isn&#8217;t something I can do<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>There is no \u201cpolite mode\u201d with my lack of executive function. If someone is a jerk, I tell the person, at that moment. That&#8217;s something non-autistics never quite grasp, either. My wife has known me for 30 years and forgets that I have no mental editor.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, <strong>I also relive moments, visually and aurally, for years after the incident<\/strong>. It is a mental film loop, playing repeatedly every day of my life. It is unpleasant, especially since one bad moment with a person or group is the moment that sticks with me for decades. If someone is rude, insulting, or cruel, that person has become a life-long miserable memory that can be triggered by the slightest thing.<\/p>\n<p>So, the best option is to avoid potential jerks.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Ignoring people isn&#8217;t something I can do. There is no \u201cpolite mode\u201d with my lack of executive function. If someone is a jerk, I tell the person, at that moment. That&#8217;s something non-autistics never quite grasp, either. My wife has known me for 30 years and forgets that I have&#8230;<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/2014\/04\/29\/bad-advice-just-ignore-the-jerks-and-my-memory\/\">Continue Reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Bad Advice: &#8216;Just Ignore the Jerks&#8217; and My Memory<\/span> <i class=\"fas fa-angle-right\"><\/i><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":4014,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"iawp_total_views":11,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[11],"tags":[24,118,456,731,749],"class_list":["post-870","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","tag-abuse","tag-bullies","tag-memories","tag-triggers","tag-verbal-abuse","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/5\/2023\/12\/Podcast-HD-1920x1080-comp-scaled.jpg?fit=2560%2C1440&ssl=1","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/pfivLC-e2","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/870","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/7"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=870"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/870\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3798,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/870\/revisions\/3798"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4014"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=870"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=870"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.tameri.com\/autisticme\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=870"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}