Insecurity is the greatest challenge for me in relationships. I seldom feel confident as a partner, friend, mentor, or coworker. In my marriage, I rarely believe I am as intelligent overall as my wife. I know I am not as emotionally balanced as she is. I know I lack her…
Tag: marriage
When I talk to groups, the three categories of questions are: school, workplace, and relationship. There are plenty of books and experts on the school issues. Plenty of debates, too. Whatever you want to believe, there’s probably an “expert” with that opinion. As an educator, I have plenty to say…
Visitors have asked why the blog doesn’t deal more with personal issues like romance, marriage, children. There’s not much to “teach” other people. My advice to autistics is to stop trying to please everyone else and find your own social network. In that social network, you might (or might not)…
A reader asks, “If you don’t think about the autistic traits, what about your wife? They tend to notice what husbands fail to see in the mirror.” Is my wife more aware of my autistic traits than I am? Probably. I suppose the above is true of all friends and…
According to Blue Cross, I’ve had 29 medical claims filed by doctors in the last 90 days. I will begin the New Year with at least three that I have already added to my calendar, one minor surgery, at least one out-patient test, and I am anticipating there will be…
My wife is the nicest person I know. Though she isn’t outwardly emotional, she is kind, caring, and definitely patient with the world. It takes a lot of energy to put up with what is becoming a tiring few months. I wish I could give her a nice, long, vacation…
Saturday was a bad day. That should be read in a deep voice by James Earl Jones for effect. It was that kind of bad day. For much of the summer I have had horrible headaches. These are definitely migraines, as my vision is as if the brightness were set…
I probably don’t express it often enough, and certainly not well enough, but I am lucky to have a wife who is also my best friend and the reason I haven’t given up while in Minnesota. Some days are really tough on me, which means they are even tougher on…
Over the last few months, I’ve been asked several times about friends. More precisely, the question has been if I have any friends. When I read online comments from autistic (“ASD” and “Aspie”) individuals, many are upset that they have no friends and seem to do everything “wrong” in a…